My youngest daughter, Clare came home from school early unexpected. was fully dressed, wearing my wife's clothes. I'm positive she saw me through the net curtains. I managed to dash upstairs and lock myself in the bedroom pretending to be asleep. Clare went back to school but has been acting differently to me ever since. What shall I do ?
Linda from Glasgow
Angela says
I feel that you might be panicking a bit here and jumping to hasty conclusions. You say that your daughter saw you through net curtains, in which case she would certainly not have seen you clearly if she was aware of you at all. Don't forget that young people can be moody and withdrawn for reasons quite unconnected with cross dressing.
Cross dressing need not be a lonely, isolating hobby. Why not pop into your nearest Transformation branch for a Changeaway and enjoy the peace and tranquility of being with people who understand and where you will feel safe and secure.
hi angela
i have a dilemma, i have been dressing for 25 years now and more and more find my self wanting to take hormones, not all of them but just some of them to help me change just a little bit to feel more feminine. hormones like double strength nipple development cream, female persona capsules and beard retardant cream.
what would your advice be
michaela, yorkshire
Angela says
Dear Michaela
I understand your need for a more profound feminine experience and hormones would certainly help you here. The hormone products found in the Transformation shops are mild, safe and effective. They are plany driven products which have a gentle positive effect on the male system as confimed by 1000s of users over the years. Most importantly they are not prescription strength so they can be bought over the counter in our shops.
To obtain more information on specific items and possible results pleae do not hesitate to phone or visit us at one of our Transformation shops. The staff would be delighted to help you.
Kind Regards, Angela
Every time I cross dress I get an erection. I do so want to experience your dressing up service and buy some breasts. Sorry I cant afford the top ones. How can I control my urge so it doesn't happen when Im being assisted by the lovely ladies in your shops, ive already spoken to Debbie, but couldn't tell her about this, she sounds so kind.
Maria from Dublin
Angela says
Hi Maria, Having an erection at an inappropriate time, is a very real fear for a lot of men who dress. At the Transformation shops that fear is eliminated because you are given appropriate garments to use,whether you are trying to buy or having a changeaway make-over. You can of course buy similar garments made of fabric or latex rubber at the shop for use in the home.These are generally known by the name cache sex and works effectivley to give a nice flat tummy. In answer to your second query regarding breasts even the most expensive are affordable these days with either a cheque spread or standing order mandate (interest free/ admin fee charged) There is a wide price range with affordable econmy breasts that are very popular. Shops usually have sale breasts in stock. My advice always get the best you can afford. For more details of interest free credit ring any shop.
Im 22 stone, a bricklayer, with hands like shovels.Please, please how can I be feminine. Ive lots of things from Scope shops. I love silky feely skin.
Cathy from Cambridge
Angela says
Hello Cathy, Women come in all shapes and sizes. Regardless of your male size you can still look and feel stunning. Charity shops serve a very useful purpose but are unlikley to stock female clothing in the sizes to fit you properley. You need a free personal advisory facility, readily available at any transformation shop.This would provide qualified help and advice and get a quick visual glimpse of your feminine possibilties. Don't forget they stock specialist items/ sizes/and clothing. Once you wear silicone breasts and corsetry,wow! You will definately feel like a woman. Hormone cream could help with achieving silky feeling skin. Goodluck!
I've dressed in ladies underwear, my wifes mainly for as long as I can remember, when I was only 8yrs old I remember pinching my sisters school knickers. Im 46 yrs old, married with 3 kids. I cant hide this anymore, im shaking as I write this.
Emma from Newcastle
Angela says
Hi Emma, Please don't feel bad about dressing, you are doing nothing wrong or illegal, nor is masculiity threatening. If only everyone could be educated into the awarness of how harmless cross dressing is. Thank you for having the courage to send this E.mail. I would like you to talk to someone at Transformation . I need more information into regarding your circumstances, are you simply TV or could it possibly be that you feel you have more transexual needs? Help can be forthcoming. So do not feel alone.
My cousin has asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding, only Jenny knows I'm a crossdresser, what shall I do ?
Rebecca from Birmingham
Angela says
Wow ! What a wonderful compliment. You must feel very flattered. Jenny obviously has a lot of confidence in your appearance and ability to pass as a "real" girl so why haven't you the same confidence ? There will presumably be other family members present so why not discuss your fears with Jenny. Don't forget if you decline you do run the risk of offending and alienating a true friend. Only you can assess the risks involved but it sounds like too good an offer to miss. Just think of the beautiful dress which I'm sure you'll get to keep.
I'm "caught short" whilst out shopping in Selfidges Ladies Department and I'm desperate for the toilet, what do I do ?
Everytime I go out crossdressed I nip into the same newsagent to buy the latest Womans Own magazine. The owner always smiles and winks at me and last night he asked me out on a date. What shall I do ?
Maureen from Croyden
Angela Says
You sound as though you are passing very well indeed. being chatted up is what happens to us girls all the time so you'd better get used to it ! You must feel flattered even though you may not be interested in a date. It takes a lot of courage for a man to ask a girl out so let him down gently. I would wear a very broad wedding band the next time you go in or start shopping at a different newsagent.
hi angela
i have a dilemma, i have been dressing for 25 years now and more and more find my self wanting to take hormones, not all of them but just some of them to help me change just a little bit to feel more feminine. hormones like double strength nipple development cream, female persona capsules and beard retardant cream.
what would your advice be
michaela, yorkshire
Angela says
Dear Michaela
I understand your need for a more profound feminine experience and hormones would certainly help you here. The hormone products found in the Transformation shops are mild, safe and effective. They are plany driven products which have a gentle positive effect on the male system as confimed by 1000s of users over the years. Most importantly they are not prescription strength so they can be bought over the counter in our shops.
To obtain more information on specific items and possible results pleae do not hesitate to phone or visit us at one of our Transformation shops. The staff would be delighted to help you.
Kind Regards, Angela
I'm "caught short" whilst out shopping in Selfidges Ladies Department and I'm desperate for the toilet, what do I do ?
Michelle from Derby
Angela says
This is a frequently asked question. Cross dressing is not illegal. However it can be construed as " a breach of the peace" if you use the ladies toilets whilst you are out dressed. To avoid any problems I would suggest you use the unisex disabled toilets which can be frequently found nowadays. If you are going out dressed self confidence is very important so be sure to visit a Transformation Shop and have a professional, feminising makeover. This will guarantee you have the "know how" to always look your feminine best. They can also provide you with an identity card, stating you are a TV/TS registered with the Albany Clinic. Presentation of this will help avoid any potential problems and reduce any feelings of vulnerablity.
Angela, what’s your advice about going out dressed. All Ive ever done is go out with stockings, suspender belt and lacey Knickers under my jeans and put red lipstick on whilst driving.
Debbie from Edinburgh
Angela says
Lots of of men wear feminine under-wear discreetly this is perfectly acceptable. I always advise against going out dressed half and half wearing both male and female clothing and makeup.Doing this you attract the wrong sort of attention.Please NEVER put lipstick on whatever the colour whilst driving. I can understand the thrill and anticipation of going out dressed but for safety reasons make sure you achieve the best possible feminine look by getting help and advice first(Transformation offer a free personal advisory service) One bad experience could seriously effect your confidence.
When I'm dressed in my favorite hookers outfit I fantasise about being picked up by a man in a flashy jag. Am I gay? I love my wife and family. She knows about my secret habit but does not want anyone else to know.
Mandy from Birmingham
Angela says
Most male TVS that dress are hot blooded hetrosexual guys who are married or have a female partner.They would not be interested in other men sexually.Dressing is a fantasy world, you can be who or what you want to be and mentally create all manner of circumstances. Most men who dress respect and admire women tremendously and dream about what it would like to actually be a woman. Perhaps it is part of your bedroom routine this is your private business. It does not mean that you are gay or bi-sexual. You are most fortunate that your wife accepts your hobby and there is no reason why anyone else should find out.When your young son becomes older adjust your routine. But don’t worry for now just have fun!
Whats the best way to put stiletto seam stockings on. I can never get the seams right
Stacey from Bolton
Angela says
Always ensure that you have your toe nails cut short. Men sometimes forget to do this. Roll your stocking slowley up and over the ankle. It is a good idea to wear a suspender belt with six suspenders (available from transformation) rather than a convential four.This would control the positioning of your stockings better.It is really a question of practice makes perfect. A good girlie tip for you – always purchase two pairs of stockings. The reason being if you ladder one you still have three stockings left. This is far more economical and your stockings will last longer.
Ive always had man boobs. I love them, am I a she male?
Christine from Manchester
Angela says
Lots of TVS have man boobs some are natural and others are cultivated by taking hormone product. Some males fantasise about having breast but cannot have them because of personal circumstances. The reasons why males want breast are varied it could be a sexual connection or maybe your instincts are perhaps transexual and you would like to feel more feminine naturaly.She males have a tendancy to go to more extreme lengths to have breast and have surgery with breast implants. They still however keep their penis. Generally ( there are exceptions to every rule) she males are gay or bi sexual and possibly motivated by sexual reasons to appeal to a wider audience.
Every time I buy Tights and Stockings they ladder straight away - why?
Betty from Wolverhampton
Angela says
A common situation is that men forget to cut their toe nails, so make sure yours are nice and short, especially on your 'Big Toes'!
Roll your stockings/tights slowly up from your ankle. This does take a bit of practice. Perhaps you need a thicker denier (texture) until you have had more experience, they are more robust to handle than flimsy nylon. Do not forget to always buy two pairs of stockings at a time, so if you do ladder one pair you have a spare pair. Transformation have an excellent selection of Tights and Stockings that you can purchase without embarassment, including a range for longer legs.
I am desperate to meet other people who dress. Sometimes I feel very lonely and isolated and would give anything to have a friend who understood! What do you suggest?
Gina from Portsmouth
Angela says
Well Gina, you have quite a few options open to you. Obviously you could 'Chat on-line' and get to know people that way. If you arrange to meet anyone its always sensible to meet in a well-lit public place and tell someone where you are going.
In the Transformation Shops they sell 'Contact' Magazines, with telephone numbers included. You could place an advert yourself, and wait for people to contact you. Transformation Shops also hold dun days. You could go along and experience a 'Changeaway'. Its a great chance for some girlie fun and you will also make lots of new friends. Ring your local Transformation shop for details. Hope this given you some ideas Gina. Good Luck there are plenty of people 'out there' who like you are keen to make new friends...
Please advice, I am in a bit of a dilemma. I have a date with a lovely girl in a couple of weeks and would really like to get to know her better. I am terrified of her finding out that I am a cross-dresser. This is an instant worry and because of it I usually avoid getting involved, but I would love a partner. Should i tell her on our first date.
Peter from Norwich
Angela says
Peter this is a frequently asked question and I can understand your concern. Some women do not understand at all just how harmless cross-dressing is. Some women do not mind being aware, but do not like to see it manifest. Then you get the women who don not mind at all and positively encourage the hobby. But don't let happiness pass you by, simply because of a fear. Life is about taking chances. Look forward to your date and remember it would not be appropriate to discuss anything of such a private intimate nature, so early in a relationship anyway. Proceed with caution by all means, but please do not let it hold you back. Some Men feel deceitful if they can not be totally honest and whilst this is admirable in most circumstances, remember by dressing you are giving yourself a relaxation which is essential and necessary for you. This in turn makes you a calmer, better person for any relationships you are involved with. Why not be totally discreet and spend a few hours having a confidential make-over at one of our 'Transformation Shops' Good luck on your date I hope it goes well.
My wife found my 'Girly Clothing' recently and has threatened to divorce me because she thinks I am odd. She wants me to go to counselling, but I know that I cannot give it up, I do not want to lose her. What can I do?
Bob from Stockport
Angela says
You could try and explain just how harmless Cross-Dressing is and that it does not affect your sexuality. If that is a no go area and you want to retain the relationship, then I am afraid you have to be discreet in future and perhaps not dress at home. Remember (Transformation Cross-Dressing service at all our Shops). By all means go to counselling with your wife which could perhaps give you the safe opportunity to discuss issues with a third party, you could not discuss at home. You can also request to speak to the counsellor by yourself which might help you to come to terms with any negative feelings you might have about Cross-Dressing. You could of course also pop into the nearest Transformation Shop and have a chat with all our understanding staff.
What can you suggest to hide my 'beard area', my make-up always seems to have a 'blue tinge' and I feel this is a dead giveaway when I go out dressed.
Louise from Manchester
Angela says
For your make-up to last, you must use an 'oil based' foundation , applied sparingly with a damp sponge (Miracle Beard Cover Cream) and then set with the complimentary loose powder. Water based make-up products do not provide the necessary consistency for enduring cover.
You can of course use the shop sold 'Hormone Based Cream' to minimise the growth rate and lighten the colour of the facial hair.
Dear Angela
I have been cross-dressing for a number of years and have finally come to the conclusion after many years that the real me is Susan and not my male persona. How do I start the transformation? I do not wish to consult my GP if possible.
I live in Kent, is there a place I can go for a consultation that’s nearby? in London for example.
Lotsa Love
Susan from London
Angela says
You do need to speak to someone about your feelings of Transexuality. The Albany Clinic in Manchester deals with all aspects of Gender Dysphoria, this would be ideal for you. To book a consultation, you can ring them anytime. As it is a private clinic, you do not need to go to your GP first to obtain a letter of referral.
The Albany Clinic was opened some 20 Years ago, by Transsexual Stephanie Anne Lloyd. She and her dedicated team of staff are extremely qualified to understand your needs, and work hard to monitor and maintain the high ethical standards necessary in such a special place; thus it is difficult to have a ‘branch’ in the south of England.
However do not despair if you cannot travel north just yet, all the staff in our ‘Transformation Shops’ are fully trained to help and advise people like yourself. In the shops you can buy non-prescriptive hormone products which might be a good idea, just to ‘test the water’. London Transformation is at 50-52 Eversholt Street, just around the corner from Euston main line station. Pop in and have a chat, you will be made very welcome.
I am not gay, but I go out dressed to a gay club in town. I have to hide away in a corner. I feel that the gay men are quite hostile to me. Why?
Joanna from Cheadle
Angela says
Gay men have a form of radar which enhances them to recognise others of the same persuasion.They are possibly suspicious of you and sense that you are not gay. If you would like to meet other TVS (most of whom are hetro sexual) there are other options. Transformation in Manchester is holding a Halloween party fun day on Saturday 28th October. This would be an ideal opportunity to meet others. Arrange for a group of TVS to go to the gay village.Generally everyone is accepted. I am sure that you would not feel so self conscious. You would have others to bolster your confidence and you could possibly have a fun time.Let us know how you get on !
I am desperate to meet other people who dress. Sometimes I feel so lonely and isolated I would give anything to have a friend who understands. Do you have a suggestion?
Jane from London
Angela says
Well Jane, you have quite a few options open to you. You could 'chat on-line' and get to know people that have the same interests as you have. If you arrange to meet anyone it is always sensible to meet in a well lit public place, most importantly tell someone where you are going.
At the Transformation Shops they sell 'Contact' Magazines with telephone numbers included. You could also place an advert yourself and wait for people to contact you. Transformation Shops also have fabulous 'Fun Days' where you could go along and have a 'Changeaway'. It is a great chance for some 'girlie' fun and also a fantastic opportunity for you to make lots of new friends. Ring your local branch which incidentally is very local to you in London.
I hope this has given you some ideas Jane. Good Luck, do not despair, there are plenty of people out there who like you are very keen to make new friends.
Last week I was caught by my neighbour trying to take her underwear from her washing line, I am 65 years old recently retired. I was sure she was at work. I told her it would never happen again.
She is always popping round for a chat with my wife, I am extremely worried she will tell her exactly what happened.
Tom from Cheshire
Angela says
What a shame you did not think to say “the weather forecast predicted rain and you were doing her a good turn”. Perhaps you could still maintain that was the reason you were removing the washing, but her sudden appearance had frustrated you.
If your wife mentions the situation that arose, you may have to bluster your way through! Lesson learned!
Why be ‘impulsive’ and try to obtain underwear that would not fit you, when you could find undies that do. Transformation caters for any shapes and sizes without compromising on femininity.
Pop into your nearest branch in Prestwich, Manchester, and see the gorgeous selection of products in store. Age is no barrier to cross-dressing, and now you are retired you can surely find the time.
Happy Shopping….
Dear Angela, please help me…
It’s 8 weeks before I get married. My fiancee is not aware of my cross dressing interests. I am going to be so jealous when she walks down the isle in her wedding dress. Should I tell her now. She knows I love sexy underwear, I am always buying it for her, it is a great excuse to buy some for myself at the same time. We have a little girl just turned 2 Years Old.
Andy from Reading
Angela says
My advice is to always get on the side of ‘caution’ when it comes to disclosing your dressing interests!
Lots of people do not understand how harmless cross dressing is, and how it’s not related to your sexual orientation. Only you can calculate the ‘risks’ involved in telling your wife to be, and I sympathise because it is a very difficult decision to make!
It is possible to run a parallel life and manifest your female self by enjoying a ‘makeover changeaway’ in one of our Transformation Shops, where you will always have unconditional acceptance by all our lovely staff. In this way you do not have to tell anyone ‘outside’, you will feel both calm and stress free in a safe environment at all times. This will surely make you a good Husband and Father in your home environment!
Yes you will be jealous of how beautiful your wife will look in her Wedding Dress, and I am certain she will look stunning, but you can have the very same experience, and look just as stunning on a ‘Bride’s changeaway experience in one of our shops.
Get to your nearest store situated in London (near Euston Station) and pick her up some sexy underwear at the same time as a ‘pre-wedding’ gift.
I hope you enjoy a long and very happy marriage.